Connie’s Corner – “To be seen as an honest person, take responsibility for your actions.”

Tip for the day:  “A ship in port is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.”

                                                                                                                                         -Grace Hopper, United States Admiral

Q:  Dear Connie:  I get so mad when my co-workers do not accept responsibility for their actions.  I know they read your article, so could you please explain what “being responsible for their actions” involves?

A.  Dear Responsible Reader:  First, let’s talk about how to react to another peoples’ actions.  I understand how frustrating it can be when you take responsibility for actions while seeing others deny responsibility for t heir actions.  Yet, you are still the only person who can control your life and attitude.

Part of the word responsibility is “response.”  Add to your strengths by not responding in a negative manner to others disagreeable responses.  Even when you are put in a bad position, if you show anger, you will become associated with the problem and it is more desirable to be associated with the solutions.

Tom Bay and David Macpherson share in the book, Change Your Attitude, that former Miss America Heather Whitestone has a “take-responsibility-for-yourself” attitude in her five-point approach to life:

  • Have a positive attitude
  • Have a dream
  • Be willing to work
  • Face your problems
  • Have a support team

When a person works hard but does not take responsibility for mistakes it is often because they have never learned to walk through the pain of facing a problem.  It can be embarrassing for a person to admit he made a mistake.  The first step, which may be the hardest step in this process, is admitting failure.  Without developing the strength to take ownership for ones mistake, a person usually develops the attitude of “letting the chips fall where they may.”

It takes a strong person to admit their shortcomings.  As a person accepts responsibility for their actions, it becomes a little easier the next time.  Overtime, a person earns respect from others and a heightened level of trust develops.

Continue to be a leader by accepting responsibility for your actions and maybe your co-workers will follow suit.

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